Your History or Our History?

We are so amazingly made (fearfully and wonderfully the scripture
says). One of the choices we have to make is to not take the past
into the future lest we recreate the past all over again. Here's a
for instance. One person says to another, "My history reminds me
to... tells me that... etc. Did you catch it? That was their history,
personal history not a shared history. Shared history treats me with
a new beginning and doesn't carry the old story over to a new
relationship. And if we want a new shared history we make that
together and that requires both of us working to not allow the past to
have power over the present and the future. We've all been hurt, all
been in situations we were disappointed in. But is that the story we
want now? Really? Wondering if we could find a way to form a shared
history based on trust and giving the benefit of the doubt so that
your history and my history doesn't shape the future. Learn from the
history yes. Recreate it? I'll pass.